just thinking out loud

I am the mother of five grown children who are all still in touch with me regularly. However, my daughter who lives in Canada now, has no contact with her son. He left home last year at the age of 16, as the law allowed him to do. When I was in the position of rearing my children, we were not afraid to impose our will and our rules on children. If they misbehaved, they properly got a telling off, or in worse situations, a smack. Now no one is allowed to put a hand on their own children, nor to shout at them, nor even to restrain them.. This situation has got so bad, that like my daughter, their children, not wanting to follow home rule, will opt out and try and go it alone. At 16, of course you think you know it all.. especially when you have been seduced by the drug culture.

He had been diagnosed as a person with Aspergers' syndrome, but where he could have been helped by legal medication , he found a way to self medicate that was outside the law. His parents tried to tell him how to manage his health, but because he is over 16, they could not force him to stay with the professionals who could possibly help him manage his extreme anxiety, and so no treatment was possible without  his agreement..

This is such a terrible waste of time and money, and of course now that he is this age, only he can decide what to do with his life.. His parents are left without support, although they keep trying to get back in touch and let him know that he is still loved.

 Because they will  not allow him to remain in the home half drugged everyday, he is certain that it is their fault he has to live with various friends and their families instead of being home. He has got so violent in his behaviour, that it is not possible now for him to return home, if he did, Social Services would take away his sister for her own safety!.. This is such a terrible predicament for any parent to have to deal with,.and, at the moment seems to have no happy ending in sight.

By taking away all forms of discipline, parents have been left with no tools to manage their children. Neither are the schools able to manage them; because of no rules, we have birthed a nation of almost feral children, who follow no rules but their own and cause havoc and chaos wherever they are, just because they can**

I know my grandson was a highly anxious child and his relationship with his parents at times had been difficult before. However now that his right to be treated as an adult is in action., there is nothing my poor daughter can do,but pray and hope that some day he will return to her in love and devotion, but at the moment he hates everyone..

DRugs are insidious, and truly dangerous, and yet there is  a huge notion that legalising them will bring less destruction to society.. Well that I DO NOT BELIEVE at all... it just will mean that every one will be rolling around half drugged all day** I know that used as a medicant, Marihuanna is very helpful, but smoking it several times a day depresses the brain and causes one to be very relaxed and able to do nothing worthwhile. I despair for my grandson, knowing that he is out in the big world, thinking he knows everything, but knowing very little and in so much danger from people he thinks he can trust. I pray for his safety every night and hope one day he will come home and be happy again.